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To relate to someone, you must know the perspective of this person, so it is very useful to learn about the challenges faced by a person with autism. You may have difficulty reading your emotions or you might read them but not knowing why you feel this way. In addition to this confusion, sensory problems and introversion are common, so socializing can be exhausting.

Learn about the behaviors of people with autism. For example, they can:

• Repeat things that someone else has said. This is called "echolalia."
  
• Talk about a topic for a long period of time, long after others have lost interest, without realizing that this has happened.
• Interrupt with statements that seem relevant to the current discussion.
• Not responding to their own names.

Understand the importance of routine. For many people with autism, routine is an important aspect of their lives. You can help by making sure your routine stays as planned throughout the day.

• If you have become part of this person's routine and then break it, it could be very disturbing for her.
• Try to keep your perspective in mind when interacting with this person. Keep in mind that just because it is possible that you do not value the routine so much and, therefore, do not mind much if one leaves it or not, for this person it can be a big problem if this happens.

Recognize the power of special interests. Perhaps, your friend is dedicated to his special interests frequently, and he loves to talk about it. Determine if your area of ​​interest overlaps with yours, and use it as a tool to connect.

Know the strengths, differences and challenges of this person. Each autistic person is different and, therefore, it is important to understand it as someone unique.

Stay alert to signs of stress, and intervene to avoid a collapse or blockage. If a person with autism becomes overloaded, they may end up screaming, crying or losing the ability to speak. It is possible that your friend does not recognize the signs of stress by itself, so if you notice that you are shaking, suggest that you take a break.

• Help him to reach a quiet and peaceful place with less noise and movement.
• Take him away from the crowds and the spectators.
• Ask him before touching or grabbing him. For example, "I'd like to take your hand now and take you outside." It is better to avoid startling or frightening him.
• Avoid criticizing their behavior. Your friend can not control himself very well now, and it is better not to accentuate it even more. If you are overwhelmed, leave.
• Ask him if he would like a good hug. Sometimes this helps.
• Let him relax for a while afterwards. You may want to talk with you alone or want to be alone.

Some more tips ...

• Remember that each person with autism is unique. There is no single approach that works and you will naturally learn the best way to interact as you get to know it.
• It may take longer for your autistic friend to "get out of his shell" or he may not do it at all. This is good. Let him move at his own pace.
• Being aware of the preferences of a person with autism can help you be a best friend to them, but do not point out these differences repeatedly or when they are in a group. The person knows that it is different and will be annoyed to be treated differently if attention is drawn to it.
• Treat autistic people with the same kindness and respect with which you treat others.